Here are some things to consider when trying anal sex for the first time anal toys: (1) about 30-40% of all heterosexual couples in this country have tried anal intercourse, (2) over 90% of men fantasize about having anal sex with their partner, and (3) both men and women when penetrated anally can experience a great deal of pleasure. You can find new ways to stimulate the G Spot and he can receive enjoyable prostate stimulation.
To increase your comfort level, you may ask that your partner try penetration first. This will even out the playing field. Many men are intimidated by the idea of being penetrated annually. They do not want to be considered “gay” if they participate in or enjoy anal penetration. Understand and explain that the anus is filled with multiple nerve receptors; so many men and women find this type of stimulation pleasurable. You might find that once you ask him to go first, he may no longer request it from you. Or he may choose to try it and find it to be a very pleasurable experience. He will also better understand the importance of going slow, being gentle and being respectful.
Before diving into this adventure, here are a few precautions. It is important for you and your partner to communicate before and during anal stimulation or penetration of any kind anal toys. One of the keys is to be prepared and relaxed. This can be integrated into foreplay with a candlelight bath, full body massage, or anything else you find relaxing. If you are concerned about cleanliness, it is recommended to go about an hour or so prior to anal play.
The rectum does not produce its own natural lubrication, making it very important to use a good quality lubricant to protect the delicate membranes.
Two options that are anal toys latex compatible are water-based and silicone lubes
Both will help ease penetration. The silicone, in particular, will remain slippery for a very long time. In fact, if you choose to try anal penetration in the shower, you will find the silicone lube will stay put for the duration and will become even more slippery. A basic rule regarding lubrication for anal sex is use a lot, and then some! Not only does extra lubrication make anal activity much more pleasurable, it also protects the body from potential infection.
Prior to your partner attempting to penetrate you with his penis, you may wish to start out with a smaller, tapered toy. Our wide selection of anal toys offers many sizes and materials to try. Pushing slightly or bearing down helps with penetration because when you release the muscles your body draws the penis or toy in. This is why it is important to always use a toy with a flared base. The rectum has two sphincters that will pull items into the body, potentially trapping the toy inside. Last but not least, never put something that has been in the anus into the vagina. This can cause an infection.
To help relax you while easing penetration try having your partner stimulate your clitoris. You can experience extra-intense orgasm when receiving both anal and clitoral stimulation simultaneously. A lubricated finger can be used to stimulate the anus prior to penetration. Finger exploration can be very stimulating on its own, whether or not penetration occurs. Always make sure nails are trimmed and hands are clean.
Anal penetration should not be painful. There have been some products designed to desensitize the outside tissue. If there is pain you may be causing some tissue damage, which is to be avoided. That is why I personally do not recommend using a desensitizer. Also avoid consuming large quantities of alcohol. It is important that both you and your partner stay in control at all times, to make sure it’s a pleasurable experience. Sure, alcohol can help soothe feeling embarrassed or vulnerable, but it is a central nervous system depressant, which slows reaction time and can impair judgment.
If you have experienced the pleasures of anal penetration and have been curious about dual penetration try using a vibrator at the same time for a trip to ecstasy! A great video to watch is Wet, Wild and Wicked if you are more of a visual learner. Bottom line: do it because you want to. Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable as long as you go SLOW! Do not let your partner pressure or guilt you into doing something you are not comfortable with. You may or may not enjoy it; however, you won’t know unless you try.